Breakups and Babies

Alright guys lets face it, relationships are are hard work and throwing a baby in the mix makes things that much more “hard”. A baby is definitely life changing, in the best way possible although they do bring added “stress” to a relationship. 

As many people read on my Instagram post, Wayne and I went through a break up a while ago which quickly changed into taking a break instead which is why I edited the post on Instagram. I know I said I was going to write about it all the next day but it was a little too hard for me to do. 

I’ll keep this post short as there are just so many details that I would add to this and could talk about but I feel that one would get the gist from a general post about it. 

Going through breakups are hard on their own, but again with a baby in the mix, its much MUCH harder! Your actions don’t only affect yourself, but more so your baby! Not only that, having a child means that you can not be selfish, you can not just leave without any words, you both have your baby to think about and both parties need to be involved in her life so you have to make that work for her! Having a child puts so much pressure on a relationship, its a real test; I remember reading so many articles before I gave birth that talked about how having a baby will break up your relationship and Wayne & I used to tell each other that that definitely wouldn’t apply to us. I can not be selfish about anything because our behaviour affects O and O deserves the best, she doesn’t deserve to be or feel as though she is in the middle of our fights and she should never see us fighting, so in that regard, you always need to keep calm and level headed even though all you want to do is be rude to the other one, stop talking to them and show them how much you don’t need them (which in ny case was the furthest from the truth), we need to behave normally around her and for her which again is just so difficult because you are seeing red and you don’t want to be calm and relaxed around that person! 

As I said, Wayne  and I decided to take a break because soon after the fight and we had time to cool down and we realised that we love eachother so much! Wayne and I have one hell of an amazing relationship, which is evident every day and after reflection and cool down from the fight it was and is very evident still. When you love someone with your whole heart, you can’t picture your life without them and want to make everything workout😊
The trick to our relationship is finding out how to get in sync with everything. Having a baby has made us grow up real quick, has changed us in a lot of ways, there are many things in our relationship that work for us and don’t work and the trick is to find a way to get in sync again the way we were before O came around. It’s really that simple. Things have changed and we need to recalibrate and adapt, which isn’t hard, communication is key and we will get there 😊



8 Comments Add yours

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  2. sly says:

    lol…im a sucker for happy ending ..glad u are back and light


    1. Thank you 😊 Right back at Ya ❤


  3. SK says:

    Happy for you! You guys will get the hang of it soon….just take it one day at a time.


  4. liz kimani says:

    praying for ya”ll. i am really glad you are back together. love always wins and God will keep you through it all.


  5. Njeri Mbogo says:

    Glad you guys are back together. A baby does things to a relationship, if both of you make an effort and work through it, it will make you even stronger. Happy parents happy babies.


  6. suckerforcoffe says:

    I’m so happy you two are back together ❤ Wishing you all the happiness in the world 🙂


  7. Mama Yamur says:

    I love that you and Wayne are in love and decided to work through it together. I just feel it’s important to clarify that you don’t just sacrifice your happiness even for your baby . No matter what . Focus on being happy yourself most Importantly because if you sacrifice and you are not happy it’s makes no sense. The healthy and important thing is for children to have happy parents whether they are together or separated. I know you are still figuring this out still and it’s okay.

    You can be selfish. Olive needs you to be.


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